Loneliness and deliberate isolation along with denial, are among the top
killers of addicts. Part of the deviousness of the disease of addiction is its
thirst for stripping the addict of all of his or her relationships, one by one,
until no one is left to stand by the addict’s side. Together we succeed and
enjoy sobriety and peace, but alone we might slowly die. It is much more fun
to live recovery with friends, than to try and do it by ourselves.
We need to share our lives with other addicts to keep what we have.
There are few joys in this life that can equal seeing some one that you have
helped to get sober, go on and help another addict. We are blessed to watch
the snowball effect of God’s love unfolding right in front of us!
We addicts choose our addiction over our relationships and the
relationships die. Towards the end of our addictive journeys, anything that
got in the way of our addiction, we just brushed aside and never looked back.
Sometimes, the downward slide in our relationships was gradual,
even so slow that when the relationships ended, we were in shock and
disbelief. Addiction is a jealous disease, and it does not tolerate competitors.
We had entered the world of the of the “twin demons”, the mental
obsession to use chemicals, and the physical craving. The mental obsession
is described in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, in the chapter called
the “Doctor’s Opinion”. Doctor William D. Silkworth states, “We who have
suffered alcoholic torture must believe—that the body of the alcoholic is
quite as abnormal as his mind.” He continues: “…… the action of alcohol on
these chronic alcoholics is a manifestation of an allergy; that the
phenomenon of craving is limited to this class and never occurs in
the average temperate drinker.”
When an addict or alcoholic is experiencing the mental obsession, Doctor
Silkworth indicates that, “They are restless, irritable and
discontented, unless they can again experience the sense of ease and
comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks—drinks which they see
others taking with impunity. After they have succumbed to the desire
again, as so many do, and the phenomenon of craving develops, they pass
through the well- known stages of a spree, emerging remorseful, with
firm resolution not to drink again. This is repeated over and over…….”
Doctor Silkworth believed that, “Something more than human power is
needed to produce the essential psychic change”. Herbert Spencer defines
spiritual experience and spiritual awakening as a “personality change
sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism.”
Most of our spiritual awakenings and spiritual experiences take place over time.
The famous American psychologist, William James, describes our
experiences this way, “ …..they develop slowly over a period of time. Quite
often friends of the newcomer are aware of the difference long before he is.
He finally realizes that he has undergone a profound alteration in
his reaction to life; that such a change could seldom have been brought
about by himself alone. With few exceptions our members find that they
have tapped an unsuspected inner resource which they presently identify
with their own conception of a Power greater than themselves.”
So what are the essential ingredients to achieving sobriety and freedom
from all addictive chemicals? Again, the Big Book says it perfectly: “We
find that no one need have difficulty with the spirituality of the program.
Willingness, honesty and open mindedness are the essentials of recovery.
But these are indispensable.”
If you do not have a Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, may I suggest that
you get one and read it. This book has saved millions of lives! Whether you
describe yourself as “an addict” or “an alcoholic”, you can greatly benefit
from the reading the Big Book.
I have published a book, “Saved By The Prince Of Peace—Dungeon To Sky.”
The purpose of the book is to give hope, encouragement, faith and love to the
suffering addict who might think that he or she cannot recover. My book
also is a source of hope and support to family members and friends of the addict.
The book covers my 28 year battle with chemical dependency and one year of
homelessness living outside on the streets of Denver, Colorado. One day, I surrendered
my life to Jesus Christ and he gave me a new life and a new freedom.
By the Grace of God, I have been sober for 18 years.
I am a miracle and you can be a miracle too!
1). Here is the link to my website for the book: http://www.dungeontosky.com
The website contains over 100 blogs I wrote on addiction and recovery.
Interested readers can purchase the book on the website.
The website also has free resources and links to recovery organizations like
AA, NA, CA, OA and information on treatment.
2). Here is the Facebook link for the Book: https://www.facebook.com/dungeontosky
Please feel free to share any of this information with any person who wants to get sober,
as well as family members who have an addicted loved one and need encouragement, love and hope.
Check out the website and get a copy of my book!
Peace, love and hope to you!