Any successful love must begin with a decision.

In fact, there are a series of decisions that determine a happy marriage or an unhappy divorce:

Do we stay together or not?

Will we communicate or not?

Will we choose to be selfish or unselfish?

Will we be of service to our mate or not?

Will we strive to live our best present or tear down our future?

Will we make a decision to love or to hate?

Will we give of our time and affection or will we choose to go our own way, thinking of nothing but our individual selves?

Will I make sacrifices for other people or will I hoard the jewels of my heart, my time and my love all to myself and live in fear and isolation?

When our relationship is at a crossroads, do I have the courage to choose the right path, or do I become a coward and choose the path of least resistance?

When I am feeling attacked, angry, agitated, disrespected or insulted, do I verbally abuse the other person, or do I patiently listen to the person and try to understand their perspective?

Do I think of other people before myself?

Do I choose to forgive or do I hang on to my resentments like pieces of treasured gold?

Do I work to invite God into my life or do I remain spiritually lazy?

Do I reserve time to spend with God in prayer, meditation and reading the Bible, or do I condemn myself to isolation and separation from God?

Once we make the courageous decision to love, life becomes so much easier because now we have direction, a compass in a turbulent sea.

God will always support a decision to love, and He will help you to stay on your best path.

There is one other critical and essential decision that we must make if our relationship is to flourish.

That decision is the decision to forgive.

If both people are to be happy and grow individually and as a couple, the pain of past mistakes and hurtful actions must be let go.

More relationships are destroyed by festering resentments than anything else.

Once we make the decision to forgive, the whole relationship changes like water added to a thirsty flower.  What once looked impossible becomes possible.

A relationship that looked dead, can come alive again.  Miracles can happen if we just take the first step of forgiveness and love.

We are never alone.  Jesus is the Great Healer and He will honor our attempts to create reconciliaton, love, forgiveness and positive energy with the one we love.

Every day, we create our lives by the choices we make.

May you choose well.

Peace to you!


About The Author

Robert J. Allison lives in Saint Paul, Minnesota with his wife Rochelle Allison. Robert survived a 28-year battle with chemical dependency, including 13 chemical dependency treatment centers and homelessness. He surrendered his life to Jesus Christ and began his new life of faith and contented sobriety. Robert has been blessed with 18 years of sobriety and with his new freedom he now is helping other addicts to find peace, faith and the priceless gift of sobriety.